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Annaprasanna – First foods/first grain eating ceremony. The Annaprasana comes in the sixth month when the child is given solid food for the first time. Mantras are recited and oblations are offered to the various deities. See this post for more info.
Auntie/Uncle - a term of respect; what all the adults (older than you) in the Indian community are called, regardless of whether they are your blood relative. Their name may precede the tag for further definition, e.g. “Sree Uncle” or “Lakshmi Auntie”.
Curry/curries – these are just the Indian dishes. Although curry powder is used in some dishes, it’s not used in all of them. I don’t know why they’re all called curries. This term applies specifically to the dishes that are to be mixed with rice (usually). They are usually of a paste consistency (some more or less so) and mostly vegetarian, but there are some with chicken, shrimp, eggs, and/or tofu.
Mix – Term for Indian version of a snack kind of like Chex mix. Everybody makes it different, but it’s always called “Mix”.
Pooja/Puja – A Pooja is worship to the Deities of the Hindu Religion in the form of prayer, offerings and sarcrifices. See http://www.visittnt.com/todo/Events/Divali/Pooja.htm for a personal take, but I like the wikipedia def: Pūjā (Devanagari: पूजा) (alternative transliteration Pooja, Sanskrit: reverence, honour, adoration, or worship) is a religious ritual that Hindus perform on a variety of occasions to pray or show respect to their chosen Gods or Goddesses. Most practicing Hindus pray once or twice a day. Pujas are reserved for special occasions like house warming. Puja should be done after a shower or bath and it is recommended that rites be performed before food intake to ensure sattvic qualities and full concentration (dhyana). Puja is also performed on special occasions in addition to the daily ritual. These include Durga Puja, Pongal and Lakshmi Puja and other religious occasions. Puja or Pooja is also a very popular Hindu female first name.
Sweets – Indian desserts.
Sari/Saree - Traditional Indian “dress” worn by Indian women. The traditional sari is usually a South Indian style. I don’t remember the North style name, which looks different (my husband and Indian community are South Telegu, so I don’t know much about North stuff). There are many styles and variations, and it seems (to me anyway) the style varies by the region of India as well (even if family lives here in the States, they may wear whatever style is popular in the part of India they are originally from).
Bollywood - The Indian version of Hollywood – also a style of movie. You’d just have to see one, but it’s becoming quite popular in the States. Lots of singing and dancing.
Caste/caste system – Way old class ranking system I don’t really understand. There are lots of castes. I used to think there were just a few, like the ones you read about in High School Social Studies (religious caste, untouchables, yada yada). Turns out, HS social studies was kind of crappy and way off on pretty much everything I was taught about India. Saresh’s caste is “Kamma” – it’s equivalent to “middle class/upper middle class” here (like business owners; professionals), but since it’s not entirely socio-economic based, there’s a lot more to it than that. There’s not really an accurate US equivalent.
Botu/Bindi – the “dot” on the forehead. Women and men wear them, and babies and children. They’re decorative and also used in religious ceremonies. Most are stickers. There’s also this cool stuff in a bottle you can paint on and it dries like a powder. They can be simple dots, or jeweled designs to match your outfit.
This post on Indian matrimonials has a few other terms with definitions as well.
Miscellaneous stuff:
North India vs South India – I get the impression this is a bit like North and South USA before the Civil War. From what little I’ve gathered, North looks down on the South, and South doesn’t necessarily like the North. Northern Indians tend to be lighter skinned. A lot of the Indian/Bollywood stars are from North India (some look white). South Indian food is hotter – waaaay hotter. North India borders Pakistan, and that’s where you hear a lot of the skirmish stuff with Pakistan. South India doesn’t seem to get into that. Saresh’s family is from South India.
Religion – Primarily Hindu with large populations of Christians and Muslims, and I think there are Sikhs (sp?) and Jainists, too, in decent populations. The Hindu temple here has a room for Jainists I believe (maybe Sikhs, too).

You know, if you hadn’t mentioned that you were a White, I would have believed that you are the proverbial Indian Wife!
I am going to include this blog in my blogroll.
Awesome blog!
By: Anuraag Sanghi on March 12, 2008
at 8:02 am
“proverbial Indian Wife” – is that a good thing or a bad thing?
thanks
By: colorblindcupid on March 12, 2008
at 8:40 pm
I am white and have a baby with an Indian guy, the baby will turn six months next week and still he continues to keep him secret from his friends, co-workers and family in India.
By: tigrelily22 on March 13, 2008
at 2:29 pm
WHOA! Doesn’t that bother you? You mean he’s keeping the baby a secret from friends and co-workers here in the U.S., too???
By: colorblindcupid on March 13, 2008
at 2:41 pm
Um, that is pushing the hiding entirely too far. He’s going to have to learn to be a man and suck it up. He’s a father now and needs to begin acting like it, not hiding something like a kid that got caught with his hand in the cookie jar.
By: ara0062 on March 13, 2008
at 3:39 pm
Anuraag’s website is pretty great. It has some very lovely ironies that he points out and some quite hilarious outlooks on things.
By: ara0062 on March 13, 2008
at 3:58 pm
Hi am a south Indian (Tamil) and am in a relationship with a white girl. I just wanted to post something so I can come back to this blog when I have time.
By: bentlyr on August 29, 2008
at 12:27 pm
Hi bentlyr – welcome!
By: colorblindcupid on August 29, 2008
at 2:26 pm
i am a blonde blue eyed woman, in the midwest,i have been in a relationship with a Tamil man for almost 2 years. His parents do not know about me, because He fears they will not accept me.
By: Sethspenn on September 2, 2008
at 5:49 am
Hey Sethspenn – welcome to the blog. I’m sorry for your situation! Feel free to hash it out here, or just read – whatever helps.
By: colorblindcupid on September 2, 2008
at 8:11 pm
i am indian and somewhat surprised to learn of more white girl / indian guy relationships lately. in CA its hard to find. so i should probably move to your state..
btw, bringing a white girl (non-indian) home to indian parents (relationship/marriage reason) is like a shocking event. so consider it normal for indian guy to hide it. there’s chances of him being disowned, parents never talking to him ever again (they keep their pride), looked down ever after,etc. this applies to the indian born guy. american born indian will rather be straightforward.
sethpenn, if he’s hiding from his friends (assumed he is indian born), its either 1) it gives him bad image as to he’s only in it for xxx. or) work passes QUICKLY… people call, email etc and his parents, friends, town, city, state, everyone will know. but just be sure yourself. if he’s a citizen or on greencard, youre safe. if he came sponsored by work or at graduate univ program, start raising your eyebrows. but for some it might also be dream to go to america and have a white girl to fulfill the dream, so if he keeps you happy, this applies to your man.
it would take about 10 pages to explain all the above reasoning about indians, or else on can jump to conclusions that indians have weird style, customs, traditions, etc.. forget all that, its 2008 and things are changing lately so just be happy.
By: confusion on September 5, 2008
at 6:39 pm
Ummmm …. interesting.
@Tigrelilly22: That’s really sad. I hope things get beetter for you, your mate and your child.
Yep. The U.S. Education system is waaaaaaayyyy far off teaching about India. To tell the truth I think the American Education system could care less about other non-European cultures/ethnicites. Heck, some people ignorantly think Africa is one poor country without any culture or civilizations. I know Africa is a continent that has many different ethnicites, cultures, languages, tribes, foods and civilizations, and that not ALL of it is poor. But most Americans don’t. And it’s the same thing with India and other countries.
I cringe each time I hear about that terrible Caste System there. I look full 100% East-Indian, with my long curly hair straighten, but I KNOW most Indo-Aryans, and may be a few Dravidians/Tamils/Gondi persons would never see me nor my sister & parents as Indian b/c we are part black. Each of us is atleast 25-50%% East-indian and <50% black (estimate), if you go on geneology. Sad, I know.
By: Sabrina on November 19, 2008
at 4:49 pm
Not all Indians are like that. Alot of Indians love any one with a drop of Indian blood and treat you as their own (atleast the ones I have come in contact with), but the Indo-Aryans that do have a color/racial complex, have it to the highest degree. I HAVE TONS OF PRIDE FOR MY INDIAN ANCESTRY, NO MATTER WHAT THOUGH!!! NO one could EVER change that.
By: Sabrina on November 19, 2008
at 4:54 pm
I plan to learn both Hindu and an Dravidian lanuage this year, after studying French, then after that may be Chinese. I already know to speak Spanish, just not as fleuently
By: Sabrina on November 19, 2008
at 5:28 pm
hs skims the surface teaching anything Indian, however I’ve been fortunate to have 2 Indian teachers that took a few liberties with the curriculum, so I’ve learned a bit, spot on with the caste system, my teachers spent an extensive time on that, and I did a report on it as well, basically it’s a system going from white to dark rich to poor north to south, and if you’re born poor or in destitute you deserve it, lol basically the caste system sucks it big time.
By: Shweta on December 23, 2008
at 2:38 am
I think majority of the Desi/White couples I see, the women tend to be White. The white women often also immerse themselves into fetishizing what they think Desi culture is and it is disturbing to me to read it. It is even more disturbing to see Indian men tell white women that her mentions of stereotypical topics regarding Indian culture make her a proverbial Indian wife.
Out of the many white women who prefer brown men that I know, majority are hidden by their men, used for sex but don’t know it, are used to get a green card, and generally think of themselves as a better woman than a Desi would be. I have even had some white girlfriends get tattoos in Bangla, learn the language and tell me about their obsession with bollywood. These things don’t make you an authentic Brown person. I wish they would stop trying and I really wish they would stop trying to get me to sympathize about the fact that his parents do not accept her. There is good reason for it. Please respect that.
By: Ani on January 5, 2009
at 8:01 am
Ani,
I liked your comments… You are right, there are some white women that try to totally become the typical “Indian” woman, losing their true selves along the way. I don’t think they realize that their differentness/uniqueness may be what attracted the guy to them originally.. that if the guy wanted a typical Indian wife, then he would have gone along with the pre-arranged marriage his parents probably had set up.
I also think some, not all, but some.. women do it because in the American culture, there is such a high rate of divorce, that they are afraid of becoming that statistic.. that if they “become” the new culture, they are less likely to lose their spouse/boyfriend/etc. because they trick their own brains into thinking they “fit.”
By: ara0062 on January 6, 2009
at 5:51 am