@ brian, if the girl really loves you, she can become your partner of life, afterall, she has already parted her heart and mind with you since some time – ask her again – parents would not come till end of your journey – they would part in between like any other co-travellers

i pray with almighty for your happiness and welfare

I’m sorry to hear your story and you must be hurting tremendously right now.

If your gf had chosen to stick with you, her family may have eventually come around, especially if a grandchild had resulted. But then again, maybe not.

Family ties are paramount to Indians, not happiness. That’s just the way the culture is.

It will probably change someday.

There is a website somewhere dedicated to people nursing broken hearts at the hands of Indians. Stories like your’s abound.

I would never advice anyone to get romantically involved with an Indian unless that Indian happened to be amongst the 1 percentile that is not attached to their family.

Please let us know if you decide to blog elsewhere.

Thanks for the years of hosting this blog and it has made a huge difference reading all of the similar situations. Best of luck in your future projects. I wanted to make a final post here. I first posted back in August about the situation with my girlfriend’s parents. It’s with great sadness I wanted to update what happened with our situation. My girlfriend ended the relationships a few months after my last post. My best friend for over 5 years and companion decided that in the end she could not go against her family. Obviously I’m extremely disappointed with her decision and I hope her parents hate and prejudice come back to bite them one day.

I went to meet her family and even some of her spiritual leaders that I had the utmost respect for. While philosophically they did not agree with her decision to be with me, they did not feel she was going to change her mind, so they made it clear to her that they will not disown her and gave us blessing. The exact quote from her parents: “That is ridiculous. What our spiritual leaders say mean absolutely nothing they are not part of this family. This family will not approve of it.” Their reason is because I’m not Hindu and I am white. They were very blunt about it.

The selfishness just blew me away. The way they disrespected their daughter’s happiness makes me absolutely sick. After a month or so she decided that she could never take the thought of being without her family so she caved into their wishes, and now here I am. I’ve been so devastated that I didn’t get around to writing until now. I still love her and it hurts very much but I’m doing my best to carry on. I hope the rest of you have better luck, and I truly truly hope that the majority of Hindu parents are starting to change and are not acting as immature as her parents did. I was raised Catholic and my parents would not like it if I married outside of my faith but in our family happiness comes #1, and if I’m happy they get over it real quick, just as they did with her.