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Colorblind Cupid
I’m a 33 year old, white, middle class, U.S. born and raised mid-westerner, married to a South Indian Telugu (Andra Pradesh) immigrant. We’ve been together for 13 years and married for 9. We have a 4-year-old daughter who’s really the one in charge around here. My in-laws didn’t accept our relationship until we actually married and many of my earlier posts deal with that experience. I also had no exposure to Indian culture prior to my marriage, so our intercultural relationship took some getting used to in some areas. We now live within 3 miles of my in-laws and have developed a great relationship.
Colorblind Cupid’s family:
Saresh = husband.
DD = daughter.
MIL = Saresh’s mother (CBC’s mother-in-law).
FIL = Saresh’s father.
Sister = CBC’s sister
The Village = the South Indian community Saresh and CBC belong to
Chinese Ambassador
I’m a white U.S. midwesterner who married a Chinese immigrant to this country. We’ve been married 6 years and we already have 3 young children. Most of my hangups with his culture revolve around food. Don’t be fooled – food is very important.
ChineseAmbassador’s family:
Ang = husband. Met CA in college, refused arranged marriage, and we married in 2001.
Little Mommy (LM) = daughter, 5 going on 30. Could probably run her own country, if given the chance.
Middle Chen = middle son, a loose cannon in every way.
Baby Chen = baby son, always happy and smiling – we call him the “bonus round” 
The Matriarch = Ang’s mother, immigrated to the US in 1989. Ang’s father passed away in 2002.
Love Generously ***NOTE: LG no longer posts, but all her wonderful articles are still available.***
I’m the mother of three amazing kids: ages 5, 5 and 3. Each was born in Guatemala to Hispanic birth parents and adopted as infants by my husband and me: white, American Midwesterners. I’m here to share my parenting experiences as the mother of non-white children. I plan to explore my kids’ observations about race, the steps my husband and I are taking to help our children develop positive self-images, our experiences of racism, and other relevant issues.
Love Generously’s Family:
Strive = my husband, because he’s always striving to be better, to do more and to help others
Lance = my 5-year-old son, because he is all about speed, not unlike that “other” Lance
Sunshine = my 5-year-old daughter, because she is “oh so Merry”
Wink = my 3-year-old son, because he has developed a penchant for winking at women in the grocery!
Hello,
I’ve been enjoying you blog very much! You’re all very entertaining! I have an adopted son from Thailand. I thought you might be interested in what I do. I work for a free online language learning company called Livemocha. We offer many languages including Hindi, Mandarin Chinese and Spanish, and will have many more available early 2008. Right now we have strong lesson plans that increase listening, reading and writing skills. My favorite part is the online conversation. Students can practice and chat with tutors, native speakers and other learners. It really helps to improve accents and increase fluency.
Anyway, I thought you might be interested in taking a look. Enjoy your day!
Wendy Laxton
Community Manager – Livemocha.com
http://www.livemocha.com
By: Wendy on November 9, 2007
at 6:34 pm
Hi Wendy! I’ll check it out….I have a post coming up that’s related to this subject, so weird timing lol.
Glad you’re enjoying the crazy people on this blog.
By: chineseambassador on November 9, 2007
at 6:41 pm
Hi Wendy! Your site and concept are really cool – how is this funded if it’s free (if you don’t mind my asking). Is it a non-profit?
Glad you’re enjoying our irreverent humor.
By: colorblindcupid on November 9, 2007
at 9:12 pm
This is so true part of me and my family I need help I want to be understood. I am 56 single mother of 7 interracial children I am white Dad was black. We adopted tow racial mixed children Black/white. All my children have the same father
excpted my adopted ones. He left me. ? due to racial pressure. I became a nurse and got my masters degree. All went to college. youngest are 25. They are grown. gone living their lives. I want to write a book. I cry so much hurt. I have so much to offer people going throught this. In the early 70’s I was taking my son to the ball park for practice. He was sitting in the back seat of the car his sister was in the front. He ducked as we road up to the park and asked to get out of the car early. I softly asked him later that night why he ducked. He said, “I am sorry mommy the kids ( mostly black) keep asking me if my mom is white and I get tired of answering them” I said thats ok I understand “I am sorry honey I understand I love you” I relplyed with a big hug and kiss. Then shut him out to play. Born 1951 raided Catholic. I was very shy. My fafily moved in my senior year of high school. I had no friends. The black girsl felt sorry for me I sat alone eating lunch. We made friends. I met my husband. he was in my home room. I was a good girl no sex. I felt he was my best friend. I was never taught anything about race at home. When I grew up I never saw black people in person. All I knew was the terrible thing I saw on the news. In april 1969, my parents were told by my school principal that I was going steady with my husband. This was not true. We were friends. I was punished all the time
as a teenager it was too much on july 1969 I left St. Louis am my high school sweet heart moved to San Diego. We had of first son in 1970. I have much more of the story before I left home. I had a good family parents who loved me never thought in the world this would happen tto them. Divorce. Never remarried spent my time working going to school and giving my child a home so they would mever think they wee different that children with two parents. I want to share my story to the world. I still face raceism. I lost jobs because if in philadelphia. Does any one have any advice Thank you
By: Mary Brown on March 19, 2008
at 6:42 am
I’m so excited after reading your about page. My husband is from Nepal! I have traveled there, and I want to live in Varanasi, India–kind of a dream of mine.
I have two bi-racial daughters, and we are from the same background. If you email me, I will send you my Flickr link; I don’t post it online because you never know who comes around these sites.
We usually network with Indian, Nepalese, and bi-racial couples like us.
I wondered why you were so interested in your topics–now I know.
Oh–I just figured out there are more than one of you–wow–that was a good idea. Really nice site.
I totally understand the need for a site like this one. Even though people are supposedly more tolerant, I have not found this to be the case. I also strugge with the educated/non-educated issue. I am educated, but people assume that I must be ignorant to have my husband. The department head at a university I attended actually made rude comments about my marriage and my husband’s race and culture. I have lived in the south, west, and north west–the south was actually better than the north west and mid-west. That was a shock.
Please excuse my grammar/typing–eating breakfast:)
By: carolinamaine on April 10, 2008
at 2:39 pm
Welcome carolinemaine! Glad you found us. I have had rude comments, too, but thankfully it’s been quite a while. Maybe I look like I’ll bite their heads off these days. LOL
We look forward to hearing more from you! Btw – we were discussing this week traveling abroad with small children. Did you take your kids to Nepal with you, and if so, how did that work out?
By: colorblindcupid on April 10, 2008
at 2:48 pm
I set up a private wordpress page because someone on wordpress.com began to harass me–ironically she has a civil rights watch blog.
Anyway-sorry it has taken a while to respond.
Our trip to Nepal was very stressful as I nursed the entire 13 hours on the plane to Hong Kong–I felt so sick when we landed. I bought a sling and my baby stayed in it the entire time when we were out walking about. She nursed in it too. The oldest was in kindergarten and we had to un-enroll her from classes which was a pain, but it worked out fine.
It is more stressful to travel with children, but it is definitely worth it.
I’m going to put a link from my new blog back to yours–I think this was a great idea for you all to come up with.
By: prodosiebooks on April 13, 2008
at 4:24 am
(formerly known as CD)
LG~
The kids and I went to Guatemala 2 years ago. We had so much fun. We worked in a girls’ orphanage in Antigua. The girls ranged in age from 8-17. They were great and we had a blast with them.
We fell in love with Antigua and spent a lot of time hanging out at the main square in Cafe’ Contessa and the old monastary that they’ve turned into a museum/hotel. We loved it and hope to go back again.
By: wurdygirl on April 14, 2008
at 1:39 am
Hey Wurdygirl – welcome! We’d love to hear more about your kids and family experiences. I thought your “red hair” story was pretty funny (and I LOVE Renaissance festivals!). LG is on a blog break, so she probably won’t get your comment, so just wanted to let you know she wasn’t ignoring you.
Like I said though, we’re definitely wanting to hear more mixed race family experiences!
By: colorblindcupid on April 14, 2008
at 2:41 pm
Thanks for making me welcome, CBC! I would have wondered. I’m sure to have more stories coming up.
K is looking for another job out of academia…he’s a scientist. We do not currently live together, but when he gets a job, we’re all moving and we’re getting married. It’s certainly going to be a family affair! Maybe even with in-laws included until we get settled. I’m sure I’ll have lots to blog about!
By: wurdygirl on April 15, 2008
at 11:18 pm
Hi Color Blind Cupid,
I have no idea how I came across your blog but am so glad I am here! I am an Indian (born/educated) girl living for a short while in the US – it’s been delightful for me to read about Indian culture from your point of view!
Most of your descriptions are very insightful – for example, I’d never noticed the Corelle/Corningware bit myself, but you are so right about it! – and very very funny. And I admire the way you are so respectful of our culture and accepting of our many quirks despite all the initial hiccups in your marriage.
Will keep coming back for more!
By: Devaki on June 28, 2008
at 4:58 pm
Welcome, Devaki! I checked out your blog and thoroughly enjoyed it – especially your 10 fav literature characters! (CA and I swoon at Mr. Darcy!) What do you think of Heathcliff? So many women love him, but he always irritated me. I love that book though.
Anyway, glad you’re here and you’re enjoying the reading. Please feel free to offer your own commentary. How long will you be in the U.S.?
By: colorblindcupid on June 28, 2008
at 8:54 pm
Hi,
We are doing a show on inter faith marriages. Wanted to speak to you in regard to this. Please get in touch with me via email as soon as possible..
Thanks
Kamakshi
By: kamakshi on June 30, 2008
at 7:39 am
Great being here, I did not realize I actually **read** a lot of the posts. Good to see there are quite a few interracial couples here. When I first moved here to VA (Me- Asian Indian and my wife Mid-western white) and my son who was abt 36 months old – We went out for a nice sunday lunch at a nearby restaurant. I still rmember when almost 60-70% of the crowd started looking at us – and I cannot forget the look on our servers face when I ordered a “Beer” – ON a SUNDAY, when the restaurant was right next to a church. Needless to say my wife thought it is a good idea to have a saturday dinner instead
By: KCV on July 1, 2008
at 6:55 pm
Hi KCV – welcome! That’s a funny story. A lot of the counties/towns in the south have “dry” counties – an issue we ran into in Tennessee last year on vacation. We kept having to drive two towns over for liquor! I bet you did get some looks. LOL
There are some links in my blogroll to other web sites with interracial/intercultural resources, etc.
By: colorblindcupid on July 1, 2008
at 10:35 pm
I may want to include commentary from your org in my next film:
(www.thecontentofourcharacter.com)
asking americans to check other in the upcoming census…if you have thoughts and opinions around this please contact me
thanks
Janks Morton
Producer/Director
“Check Other”
By: WBMT on July 10, 2008
at 6:42 pm
WBMT, I would be interested in doing that. I think I will check the other box. Technically/Genetically I am a mixture..so why try to box myself in? Good idea.
By: ara0062 on July 12, 2008
at 5:36 am
Hi,
I found this website by chance while googling tonight. I’m really fascinated by some posts I’ve just read and to tell you the truth, I’m also a mother of a mixed child. I’m originally from S/Korea, but I’m married to an English and I’m currently living in England with my husband and son.
Anhyway it’s lovely find this online space where I can see so much in common.
Hope you all have a nice weekend.
Kind regards,
Senna
By: Senna on July 25, 2008
at 11:26 pm
Welcome Senna – We hope to hear more from you, especially any family related issues you’d like to share! We’re on a summer writing break for a while, but will be back in a few weeks.
By: colorblindcupid on July 30, 2008
at 4:50 pm
Cute new blog header! I hope you all are having a great summer break.
By: fightingwindmills on August 16, 2008
at 6:29 pm
is the summer break over now? i keep checking back every now and then and jus saw that there was a few comments again. have I written back on here too early? lol.
By: englishgirl on August 16, 2008
at 7:31 pm
Kindergarten starts in ONE WEEK. I’m sort of back, but I’m sure once school is in full swing we’ll be writing more.
By: chineseambassador on August 16, 2008
at 8:18 pm
Hi CBC… I saw an Indian-American movie called ‘Flavors’ yesterday. Have you seen it?
There was this situation where an Indian guy plans to marry an American girl and we see how his parents (who come in from India for the wedding) get to know and accept their son’s choice.
I loved the parents’ attitude, they are confused but accepting and very sweet and funny. I had a feeling you might enjoy watching the movie for this part if nothing else.
By: jottingsnmusings on September 11, 2008
at 11:59 pm
I haven’t seen it or heard of it – maybe will check it out if Netflix has it. thanks! If you liked it, put it in the movie reviews page.
By: colorblindcupid on September 12, 2008
at 3:19 am
Hi ColorBlindCupid,
I am an American journalist currently working in India at the Times of India as a videographer. I am interested in producing a story on interracial couples living in India. Do you and your husband happen to know anyone who lives in India whom I could interview?
Here is my contact information:
Michelle Stockman
michellestockman@gmail.com
Thanks!
Michelle
By: AmericanJournalist on October 29, 2008
at 7:20 am
Hi Michelle,
All the interracial couples I know personally are here in the U.S. However, Heather who runs IndianTies (www.indianties.blogspot.com) might be able to help you. She met her husband while she was working in India, so he or she may know someone there. Her contact info is on her site.
Also, if any of the readers here are in an interracial relationship in India (or know someone who is), please contact Michelle if you’re interested in participating.
Good luck with your story!
By: colorblindcupid on October 29, 2008
at 2:16 pm
Hi there!
My husband and I just launched a social news site a few days ago and are in need of some good content and people so we wanted to put a contest together (1st prize = $200, 2nd prize = $100, 3rd prize = $50) and are wondering if this would be something you or your readers might be interested in participating in? If you are, I’d be happy to send some more info about it.
Happy holidays!
Cheers,
By: Zjymaalii & Maria on December 17, 2008
at 6:06 am
hey! same girl from the “indian in a white family” i made a new blog though. so you’ll find me at spazztasticallyuntitled.wordpress.com
By: Shweta on January 19, 2009
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