About Us

Colorblind Cupid

I’m 33, and a white, middle class, U.S. born and raised mid-westerner, married to a South Indian (Andra Pradesh) immigrant. Interracial and intercultural relationships have a host of unique experiences that are good, bad and everything in between. They can be quite a challenge, but mine has definitely been worth it. After 12 years of a wonderful life I never imagined, I’m offering musings, hindsight, and humor on the dating and marriage front where East meets West (and a bit of post-traumatic therapy for myself). We have a 4-year-old daughter who’s really the one in charge around here.

Chinese Ambassador

I’m a white U.S. midwesterner who married a Chinese immigrant to this country. We’ve been married 6 years and we already have 3 young children. Most of my hangups with his culture revolve around food. Don’t be fooled - food is very important.

Love Generously

I’m the mother of three amazing kids: ages 5, 5 and 3. Each was born in Guatemala to Hispanic birth parents and adopted as infants by my husband and me: white, American Midwesterners. I’m here to share my parenting experiences as the mother of non-white children. I plan to explore my kids’ observations about race, the steps my husband and I are taking to help our children develop positive self-images, our experiences of racism, and other relevant issues.

Responses

Hello,

I’ve been enjoying you blog very much! You’re all very entertaining! I have an adopted son from Thailand. I thought you might be interested in what I do. I work for a free online language learning company called Livemocha. We offer many languages including Hindi, Mandarin Chinese and Spanish, and will have many more available early 2008. Right now we have strong lesson plans that increase listening, reading and writing skills. My favorite part is the online conversation. Students can practice and chat with tutors, native speakers and other learners. It really helps to improve accents and increase fluency.
Anyway, I thought you might be interested in taking a look. Enjoy your day!

Wendy Laxton
Community Manager – Livemocha.com

http://www.livemocha.com

By: Wendy on November 9, 2007
at 6:34 pm

Hi Wendy! I’ll check it out….I have a post coming up that’s related to this subject, so weird timing lol.
Glad you’re enjoying the crazy people on this blog. :)

By: chineseambassador on November 9, 2007
at 6:41 pm

Hi Wendy! Your site and concept are really cool - how is this funded if it’s free (if you don’t mind my asking). Is it a non-profit?

Glad you’re enjoying our irreverent humor. :)

By: colorblindcupid on November 9, 2007
at 9:12 pm

This is so true part of me and my family I need help I want to be understood. I am 56 single mother of 7 interracial children I am white Dad was black. We adopted tow racial mixed children Black/white. All my children have the same father
excpted my adopted ones. He left me. ? due to racial pressure. I became a nurse and got my masters degree. All went to college. youngest are 25. They are grown. gone living their lives. I want to write a book. I cry so much hurt. I have so much to offer people going throught this. In the early 70’s I was taking my son to the ball park for practice. He was sitting in the back seat of the car his sister was in the front. He ducked as we road up to the park and asked to get out of the car early. I softly asked him later that night why he ducked. He said, “I am sorry mommy the kids ( mostly black) keep asking me if my mom is white and I get tired of answering them” I said thats ok I understand “I am sorry honey I understand I love you” I relplyed with a big hug and kiss. Then shut him out to play. Born 1951 raided Catholic. I was very shy. My fafily moved in my senior year of high school. I had no friends. The black girsl felt sorry for me I sat alone eating lunch. We made friends. I met my husband. he was in my home room. I was a good girl no sex. I felt he was my best friend. I was never taught anything about race at home. When I grew up I never saw black people in person. All I knew was the terrible thing I saw on the news. In april 1969, my parents were told by my school principal that I was going steady with my husband. This was not true. We were friends. I was punished all the time
as a teenager it was too much on july 1969 I left St. Louis am my high school sweet heart moved to San Diego. We had of first son in 1970. I have much more of the story before I left home. I had a good family parents who loved me never thought in the world this would happen tto them. Divorce. Never remarried spent my time working going to school and giving my child a home so they would mever think they wee different that children with two parents. I want to share my story to the world. I still face raceism. I lost jobs because if in philadelphia. Does any one have any advice Thank you

By: Mary Brown on March 19, 2008
at 6:42 am

I’m so excited after reading your about page. My husband is from Nepal! I have traveled there, and I want to live in Varanasi, India–kind of a dream of mine.

I have two bi-racial daughters, and we are from the same background. If you email me, I will send you my Flickr link; I don’t post it online because you never know who comes around these sites.

We usually network with Indian, Nepalese, and bi-racial couples like us.

I wondered why you were so interested in your topics–now I know.

Oh–I just figured out there are more than one of you–wow–that was a good idea. Really nice site.

I totally understand the need for a site like this one. Even though people are supposedly more tolerant, I have not found this to be the case. I also strugge with the educated/non-educated issue. I am educated, but people assume that I must be ignorant to have my husband. The department head at a university I attended actually made rude comments about my marriage and my husband’s race and culture. I have lived in the south, west, and north west–the south was actually better than the north west and mid-west. That was a shock.

Please excuse my grammar/typing–eating breakfast :)

By: carolinamaine on April 10, 2008
at 2:39 pm

Welcome carolinemaine! Glad you found us. I have had rude comments, too, but thankfully it’s been quite a while. Maybe I look like I’ll bite their heads off these days. LOL

We look forward to hearing more from you! Btw - we were discussing this week traveling abroad with small children. Did you take your kids to Nepal with you, and if so, how did that work out?

By: colorblindcupid on April 10, 2008
at 2:48 pm

I set up a private wordpress page because someone on wordpress.com began to harass me–ironically she has a civil rights watch blog.

Anyway-sorry it has taken a while to respond.

Our trip to Nepal was very stressful as I nursed the entire 13 hours on the plane to Hong Kong–I felt so sick when we landed. I bought a sling and my baby stayed in it the entire time when we were out walking about. She nursed in it too. The oldest was in kindergarten and we had to un-enroll her from classes which was a pain, but it worked out fine.

It is more stressful to travel with children, but it is definitely worth it.

I’m going to put a link from my new blog back to yours–I think this was a great idea for you all to come up with.

By: prodosiebooks on April 13, 2008
at 4:24 am

(formerly known as CD)

LG~

The kids and I went to Guatemala 2 years ago. We had so much fun. We worked in a girls’ orphanage in Antigua. The girls ranged in age from 8-17. They were great and we had a blast with them.

We fell in love with Antigua and spent a lot of time hanging out at the main square in Cafe’ Contessa and the old monastary that they’ve turned into a museum/hotel. We loved it and hope to go back again.

By: wurdygirl on April 14, 2008
at 1:39 am

Hey Wurdygirl - welcome! We’d love to hear more about your kids and family experiences. I thought your “red hair” story was pretty funny (and I LOVE Renaissance festivals!). LG is on a blog break, so she probably won’t get your comment, so just wanted to let you know she wasn’t ignoring you. :)

Like I said though, we’re definitely wanting to hear more mixed race family experiences!

By: colorblindcupid on April 14, 2008
at 2:41 pm

Thanks for making me welcome, CBC! I would have wondered. I’m sure to have more stories coming up.

K is looking for another job out of academia…he’s a scientist. We do not currently live together, but when he gets a job, we’re all moving and we’re getting married. It’s certainly going to be a family affair! Maybe even with in-laws included until we get settled. I’m sure I’ll have lots to blog about!

By: wurdygirl on April 15, 2008
at 11:18 pm

Hi Color Blind Cupid,

I have no idea how I came across your blog but am so glad I am here! I am an Indian (born/educated) girl living for a short while in the US - it’s been delightful for me to read about Indian culture from your point of view!

Most of your descriptions are very insightful - for example, I’d never noticed the Corelle/Corningware bit myself, but you are so right about it! - and very very funny. And I admire the way you are so respectful of our culture and accepting of our many quirks despite all the initial hiccups in your marriage.

Will keep coming back for more! :)

By: Devaki on June 28, 2008
at 4:58 pm

Welcome, Devaki! I checked out your blog and thoroughly enjoyed it - especially your 10 fav literature characters! (CA and I swoon at Mr. Darcy!) What do you think of Heathcliff? So many women love him, but he always irritated me. I love that book though.

Anyway, glad you’re here and you’re enjoying the reading. Please feel free to offer your own commentary. How long will you be in the U.S.?

By: colorblindcupid on June 28, 2008
at 8:54 pm

Hi,

We are doing a show on inter faith marriages. Wanted to speak to you in regard to this. Please get in touch with me via email as soon as possible..

Thanks
Kamakshi

By: kamakshi on June 30, 2008
at 7:39 am

Great being here, I did not realize I actually **read** a lot of the posts. Good to see there are quite a few interracial couples here. When I first moved here to VA (Me- Asian Indian and my wife Mid-western white) and my son who was abt 36 months old - We went out for a nice sunday lunch at a nearby restaurant. I still rmember when almost 60-70% of the crowd started looking at us - and I cannot forget the look on our servers face when I ordered a “Beer” - ON a SUNDAY, when the restaurant was right next to a church. Needless to say my wife thought it is a good idea to have a saturday dinner instead :)

By: KCV on July 1, 2008
at 6:55 pm

Hi KCV - welcome! That’s a funny story. A lot of the counties/towns in the south have “dry” counties - an issue we ran into in Tennessee last year on vacation. We kept having to drive two towns over for liquor! I bet you did get some looks. LOL

There are some links in my blogroll to other web sites with interracial/intercultural resources, etc.

By: colorblindcupid on July 1, 2008
at 10:35 pm

I may want to include commentary from your org in my next film:

(www.thecontentofourcharacter.com)

asking americans to check other in the upcoming census…if you have thoughts and opinions around this please contact me

thanks
Janks Morton
Producer/Director
“Check Other”

By: WBMT on July 10, 2008
at 6:42 pm

WBMT, I would be interested in doing that. I think I will check the other box. Technically/Genetically I am a mixture..so why try to box myself in? Good idea.

By: ara0062 on July 12, 2008
at 5:36 am

Hi,

I found this website by chance while googling tonight. I’m really fascinated by some posts I’ve just read and to tell you the truth, I’m also a mother of a mixed child. I’m originally from S/Korea, but I’m married to an English and I’m currently living in England with my husband and son.
Anhyway it’s lovely find this online space where I can see so much in common. :)
Hope you all have a nice weekend.

Kind regards,
Senna

By: Senna on July 25, 2008
at 11:26 pm

Welcome Senna - We hope to hear more from you, especially any family related issues you’d like to share! We’re on a summer writing break for a while, but will be back in a few weeks.

By: colorblindcupid on July 30, 2008
at 4:50 pm

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